Thank you. Being loved is an ability that comes from the recognition of self-worth, from the appreciation and gratitude of those who love us.
The ingredients of a happy family are respect, gratitude and exchange. These things can really be said and done through the process."
Wang Bing particularly appreciates the concept of marriage healing master John Gottman. For example, some children forget to turn off the light after going to the toilet, and the mother will beg for complete reprimand: "How can you not turn off the light?" The exact saying is: "I saw the light in the toilet was left on, I don't know if you forgot?" Or: "Mom saw you left the light on after you went to the toilet, and I wish you would turn it off now." Don't complain, talk it out, and your marriage will be happy.
The careful and close relationship between husband and wife is the cultivation of one self and the relationship between two selves. The most terrible thing in the relationship between husband and wife is not admitting mistakes and dying. The correct formulation is: "You interrupted me at the right time, I am quite angry." Let him play comfortably, don't concentrate on liquidating the house while he plays, liquidate consistently. Being loved is an ability that comes from the recognition of self-worth, from the appreciation and gratitude of those who love us. Wang Bing said, of course, husband and wife exchange can not prevent complaints, but even if it is a complaint type of exchange, we must also be very artistic confession. Promise him to truly reveal and exist in his home in his appearance.
Respect." "You're always working overtime, and I'm lonely at home." ---- Wang Bing
Complaining of no use is not really something to say. If the other person's passion falls, you have to lead him." When a man comes home late, he will say to his wife, "Sorry, I worked overtime and came home late." But a woman can't stand such an apology, what is the use of "sorry"? You're still late! But if the man said: "Let you alone at home, I am very sorry."
Whether it is husband and wife or parents and children, the major taboo of communication and exchange is wild expectations, and the correct way is to first say the facts of the inspection, and then tell my real induction contaminated. If both of us can relax at home, fully reveal our true selves, and respect each other's habits, a marriage is harmonious and happy." And the woman will accept it. Some men will also feel tainted with grievances: "I work overtime not for this family?" !" However, the marriage relationship can not be justified by your spending so as to get along with the model, appropriate concessions and tolerance can make the marriage happy. Wang Bing said: "The most useful way to make the relationship between husband and wife harmonious and happy is to learn to appreciate and appreciate the excitement." The question is, how can exchange and communication not be a complaint?
Wang Bing said: "Have something to say. A husband who expresses gratitude to his wife for expressing his feelings of affection or affection from a different wife, one day suddenly said, "I can marry you so good!" The wife may immediately ask, "What evil have you done behind my back?" Wang Bing said that many couples are old men and wives, and it is very artificial to feel gratitude, and it is natural to change the system. The wife complained that "I am worded, you interrupt me", "you never liquidate after dinner", "you work overtime, don't come back", such "you" confession method is to scold each other selfish, there is my reason to expect, it is very impolite. Wang Bing recommended the "I" confession method, that is, every sentence should end with "how I do". Don't complain, talk it out, and your marriage will be happy. If the teacher comes home from work and wants to play games for a while, then tell him: "You play games for a while, I will also do something I enjoy."
"The most useful way to make a happy and harmonious relationship is to learn to appreciate and appreciate emotions." Such "I" confessions are very useful. These things can really be said and done through the process."
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" When the husband worked so hard to clean the room, the wife said happily, "Why did you sweep the floor?" How nice!"
Switch. For example, a husband who is eating dinner says to his wife, "The dishes you cooked today are very good in color, smell and taste. I can see that you are very attentive." "You never wash the dishes after eating, which makes me feel very tired." The other party, after inspecting 2,000 good couples, found that in a happy relationship, the ratio of positive proud interactions (smiling, touching, singing, laughing) to negative interactions (sarcasm, rejection, bullying) was at least 5:1, not the absence of negative proud experiences. Because communication and exchange is the foundation of the relationship between husband and wife. When the other person doesn't live up to your expectations, you have to change yourself. The ingredients of a happy family are respect, gratitude and exchange